Parent’s mindset to greatness: aspiration, preparation, results.
As parents, we want our children to become successful adults.
But in reality what does that mean? Is there a way to orchestrate your child’s success? Or at least increase the probability for them to be successful?
And if there is a way to increase the probability of their success, what are the strategies you should follow?
What is the mindset THEY should have? What is the mindset YOU should have?
So much of parenting seems to be reactive or random or hereditary, what traits or values should you be looking to instill?
There are answers to all of these seemingly impossible to answer questions. But there are best practices to parenting. Tried-and-true strategies that are used by parents who don’t leave their children’s to chance.
Wouldn’t you like to know the secret sauce to Parenting to Greatness?
The game plan
Parenting to Greatness begins with the mindset of the parent, continues with knowing your definition for success and ends with the implementation of strategies that will increase the probability of your kid’s success.
The definition of success is unique to an individual family. Some families define success as excellence, enlightenment, and/or longevity in the following areas:
Power and influence
What is valued as success for one family is insignificant to others. Success, like greatness, is first defined by the individual and the people they hold in the highest regard — their family. While there are some universal principles of what is considered success, success is in the eyes of the beholder.
Success can not be defined for you, but success of any kind requires certain traits.
What are the traits of a successful young adult?
To us, Parenting to Greatness, a successful child who is about to graduate from high school is prepared to meet the challenges of their time. A young adult who will be their best when their best is needed.
Moreover, a successful adult is one who is prepared to succeed in these three areas.
1. Eventually work in a career they love.
2. Be able to maintain fulfilling relationships.
3. Effectively manage their money.
As parents, if we can prepare our kids to be successful in these three areas they be prepared to meet the challenges of their time. To me, that is the meaning of success for my children.
But, how do we develop our kids from young children to successful adults? There isn’t a manual of best practices that will increase the probability for their success.
Mindset of Greatness for Parents: Aspiration, Preparation, Results
Before you can embark on a strategy for greatness for your children, first you must have the mindset of greatness as a parent.
Your hope for greatness — your aspiration– for your child must be part of your family’s values. Those values are nonnegotiable. They may be difficult to instill, but your aspirational values, will be the foundation of your child’s success.
Greatness is sustained success.
But before greatness there must first be success.
As a parent we want you to:
Want more for your child.
Want excellence for your child.
Want independence for your child.
Want confidence for your child.
Want trust for your child.
Want good character for your child.
Want resiliency for your child.
Want curiosity for your child.
Want problem solving skills for your child.
Want precision for your child
Want responsibility for your child.
These are the founding traits of successful adulthood.
Aspire, develop and nurture these traits in your child. Implement a plan that instills these traits and you will increase their probability for success.
Hope is just the first step.
A dream without feet is just a fantasy.
In order to make the aspiration for your child’s success a reality, you must have a plan for success.
There are no excuses. It doesn’t matter if you lack positive parenting role models, parenting confidence, leadership skills, or formal education. You, the parents, will have the most significant impact that will determine what your child does with their talent:
C. Just gets by
You get one shot to prepare your kids for the world in which they will have to compete. There are no do-overs for parenting.
Preparation is where you transmit your aspiration to your child. From the time they are born until the time they become legal adults, we as parents are constantly transmitting “life signals.” These signals will become the foundation of your child’s character and thus their ability to succeed.
Who they will become as adults? What will be important to them?
What values will they rely on as they become adults?
Will those values be assets or liabilities?
Will the traits they need be under developed or omitted — left for them to discover through trial and error?
As parents, we must develop a game plan to identify the traits our children will need (our aspiration) and then develop a strategic plan to integrate these traits into our child– preparation.
Raising children is the most difficult and complex thing you’ll ever do. As parents we talk, listen, nurture, punish, laugh, yell, surprise, comfort, educate, protect, and console our children to name a few roles parents play. And that was just last week.
It just means there are plenty of opportunities to instill our aspirational traits into our children.
There are best practices to achieve these results. Best practices used by the best teachers in public school, private school, parents who send their kids to both.
Combining your hope (aspiration) for your child’s success with a plan (preparation) will increase the chances of your child’s success.
Of course, there are no guarantees, but the parents who rear successful kids increase their kids probability of success by having a clear road map for the values and traits they want their child to have. They know that it is solely their responsibility to ensure that their child has those values so they will be prepared for adulthood.
Take a moment to write the values you want your child to have by their high school graduation. Write five to ten must-haves.
This list will create a clear portrait of the value that are important to your family.
Post them on your refrigerator so you kids can see them. Take the time to explain them. Not all at once, but one at a time. Tell a story about a family member who is an example of the character values.
This is how you begin the hard, but rewarding work, of gradually shaping your child to become the adult of your aspirations.
Armed with a clear plan and consistent implementation you will increase the probability of your child’s success. By the time they graduate from high school they will be primed for success.
Ready to meet the challenges of their time. — Sarah Dix Hamlin